$2,668.94 Later…

Do you know what’s interesting?  Most don’t realize how expensive it is to be a writer.

I just finished itemizing all of the costs associated for my writing business and that is the figure I came up with.  I have spent $2,668.94, in 2016, just to keep my writing career afloat.  This doesn’t include: the cost of monthly Internet, cell phone costs for keeping in touch with my readers and PA’s by phone, text, or internet and purchases I made before I started keeping receipts to itemize, later.  It also doesn’t include all the time, energy and sweat I invested in writing my books and keeping my business running smoothly and organized.  However, this grand figure does include: purchasing books, payments to companies for hosting me in their events, gathering reviews for me, purchasing countless amounts of swag, keeping up a blog/site to keep in contact with readers, and mailing items to readers that have won my contests and giveaways, all in the effort to promote/market my books, world-wide.

All I can say is WOW!  When you look at the grand total, it really makes you think.  A beginning writer, like me, is lucky to make anything close to this in the first couple of years… if ever.  It makes you consider whether you want to keep writing or not.  For this amount of money, I could’ve taken a relaxing vacation in Hawaii, but instead I was trying to promote/market and entertain my readers with the hopes of gaining new readers, in the long run.

Authors definitely do what they do for Love.  Like many readers, authors don’t have money either.  They don’t have the extra cash, readily available, to plug into their business hence the reason why most authors work somewhere else to gain the money to do what they love on a part-time basis, instead of not doing it at all.  Can you imagine if every author realized how expensive their writing career was and just dropped out?  Stopped writing.  Started using that cash to do something else fun, like travel.  What would we, readers, do to entertain ourselves if there were no more books left on the shelves to read?

Thankfully, authors continue to write despite the fact that there’s little financial reward involved.  Many unknown authors write great books and it’s a shame they remain in the shadows.  So the next time you think you can’t afford a book, take a second and think about the one who wrote it and all the time, energy and love they put into that book that they may never recover in financial gain.

Do something wonderful and unexpected today for an author(s) you Love and let them know what you think about their work and what is it about their books that you enjoy.  Give them kudos to keep them going.  Authors soak this up like water on a hot day but, sadly, praise is sporadic at times or rare.  By telling an author you care and to keep writing, you will have added joy to their day and meaning to their career.  So, what are you waiting for?  Spread some love and joy today and tell an Author to keep writing!

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Empath?

Some people say I’m sweet~  Well, I’m not sure if I am or not but I know, like any other, I’m trying.

I had to counsel a co-worker this afternoon and on my way home I found myself running over, in my mind, all of the things I could’ve said to her but didn’t because I didn’t even think of them…  I wondered what happened to me in this circumstance when at times I surprise myself, hearing amazing, thought-provoking words flowing off my tongue that are likely from a higher source other than me.  However, this time I could kick myself because I didn’t do my best.  I faltered badly in front of someone who needed me though I didn’t do this intentionally.

** The problem is I feel more than I know what to say.  **

The words somehow get stuck or don’t come to mind because I’m feeling for the person, wondering how I can assist them to feel better.  It’s later that I run through all of the sentences and paragraphs of wise knowledge I should’ve imparted to them.  Then I feel inadequate, wonder if I should set up another meeting with them so I can impart all these wise tidbits, maybe even write them on a sheet of paper so I can remember them later when I’m sitting face to face with them again and in “duh” mode.  I also ask myself why did I not think of these things when I was face to face with them and… I have no answer.  I have no idea why but I feel like I did them a disservice and if they had this information maybe they’d be empowered to make better choices.

And the word Empath comes to mind.  A word I’ve Googled countless times but am not sure if it really fits me.  A word that doesn’t seem too empowering and I may not want to be labeled as.  A single word that seems people who fit into this category have been dealt the ‘short straw’ so to speak.  They feel too much and that it’s a bad thing because you have to protect yourself and do some type of rituals to’wash off the energies’ of others, all the time to be safe.  A word that makes me feel like a doormat for others’ problems.

I’ve always considered myself strong and capable.  Able to take on anything and survive.  A Superwoman of sorts.  But this single word Empath doesn’t hold those same traits.

I can only hope that part of what I said to my co-worker made sense and that I got through.  I hope that this beautiful, generous, kind and loving woman who doesn’t see herself in that way anymore and struggles with her own personal experiences realizes what a true treasure she is and that maybe, just maybe, despite my “empathic” ways becomes stronger, more confident and courageous.  Sadly, there aren’t many like her in this world and if there’s anything any of us ’empaths’ can do to help these wonderful souls through this challenging world, it is our duty to assist them to their highest good and greatest potential.  All we can do is try.

 

 

Preparing for Matthew- a Hurricane is coming!

Hi Readers,

 

It is raining here this Thursday morning as residents from Central Florida to the East coast of Florida prepare for  the inevitable- Hurricane Matthew!  It has been awhile since I’ve had to prepare for a Hurricane and so much has happened in the past two days.  I really hope that this one is much kinder than Charlie was to us but whatever happens, it’s coming and we have to ride it out.  So here’s what’s happened since I learned that Matthew changed its course to come visit me.

October 5th-

I was at Wal-Mart in the early morning hours, purchasing normal every day items, unaware a hurricane was targeting my area when I asked a cashier if it was general practice for cashiers without their lights on to take customers.  He informed me that due to the ‘Hurricane rush’ they were just taking people but it was not a normal event.  This is when I realized that Matthew was approaching and I needed to take it seriously.  I then called my husband from the car to discuss the serious nature of this approaching storm and to ask if he thought we needed anything.  He said water and maybe some canned foods and chips, so I headed back into the store with my shopping cart, grabbing a box of Halloween cookies to soothe my additional stress and as a reward for being pro-active when I ventured down crowded aisles to find absolutely no canned pasta, only a few cans of canned chicken in various, strange flavors (one of them was damaged) and no water bottles anywhere.  What a surprise!

So, after doing all I could:  purchasing 8 bottles of flavored water, 2 cases of flavored canned water, one can of chicken and tons of bags of chips and crackers, and grabbing 4 bottles of actual plain water (I couldn’t believe I found) in the small refrigerator in the check out lane, I drove home.

I then reviewed my inventory of canned items I already have at home.  We have a good, not stellar, supply already and I hope it’s enough for the three people in my life I have to worry about (hubby, me and my ailing dad who lives in his own apartment).

However, I started worrying about our supply of water but I found a good tip online advising to fill freezer bags with water and freeze them.  So I set about doing just that and realized that next time I will need to buy brand name freezer bags to be safe for the locking mechanism on off-brands is precarious.  ** For a fun experience try filling freezer bags with water while holding the bags with both hands as they grow heavier and heavier and shifting the tap off with your mouth.

~ It’s funny the things you do when you can’t find water in the store.  I started brain-storming and came up with the idea to fill my Keurig and my alternate coffee pot, to capacity, with water in case I needed to siphon some out to boil, etc. for later.  And I happily found three pitchers in my cabinets and filled them all, setting them aside on the counter in front of my make-shift “water storage”.

After my hubby returned home, we took in all the decorations, wind chimes, benches and chairs from outside (it’s amazing what you have outside of your house- you never really know how much until you have to collect them) and set them in the garage and then called it a night.

October 6th-

I woke up considering what to do with all the food in the freezer and refrigerator due to power outages.  Since we live in an older neighborhood, our power lines are above ground and just the slightest wind will cause an outage.  With the pending hurricane there is no question we will have no power and since we no longer live near a water treatment plant or fire station, it could be days to weeks before power is restored.  So, I proceeded to pack everything up in bags and transport them to my dad’s apartment.  He has my spare refrigerator in his garage and since his electricity is tied in with the fire station next door his power very rarely goes out and when it does, it’s less than an hour or two before it comes back up.  Thank goodness for small miracles!  Now almost all my food and condiments are packed into the spare refrigerator.

But then I forgot- I also have my Hurricane Supply box in my dad’s garage as we’ve never had a chance to move it to my house.

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And when I lifted the lid, I couldn’t believe my eyes!!!

 

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4 Jugs of water!  Eureka!!!!  And a bunch of battery powered fans, too.  It’s really the little things that excite you when a monster of a storm is approaching.

So here I am sitting at my computer, after turning down the a/c to cool the house with all the ceiling fans running too (to make the temperature as frosty as possible before the lights go out) with only routine things left to do- check the mail and make lunch while I still have an oven that works.

And so, to all you readers in the impact zone, please be safe!  I will chat with you soon.

 

It’s been one year and I still love writing

October 24, 2015 marked one year since my first book, Nightfall, was published.  I was lucky enough to win the faith of a traditional publisher, Luminosity Publishing, who took a chance on me.  Thank you!

Since publishing my first book, I have published one more, the first in a 5-book series:  Jasper, The Guardian League, Book One and I am awaiting publication of my third book:  Centurion:  The Guardian League, Book Two.  And, I am writing my fourth book:  Apollo, The Guardian League, Book Three.

It’s slow going for me, compared to other authors who seem to whip 5 or more books out a year, but for me, working a full-time job and writing on the side as much as my energy and body are willing to do, I have to say I’m doing pretty well and the good part, the most important part is I still love writing.  I won’t say there aren’t hard times.  As a new author, you encounter barriers and challenges everywhere, ending in days where you’ll question why you keep hitting your head on a wall (because that’s what it feels like in the struggle to market yourself).  It matters that your book is good but what seems to matter even more is getting the word out about fantastic you and sales of your book.

In the past year I have learned how and where to advertise, how to search for reviewers, contacting countless of them for reviews of my books, hosted three contests for free books, and have experienced a virtual book tour.  I have also connected with several fans (I love speaking to fans and interacting with them) and some amazing fellow authors.  I am trying, I am learning and I am still in the running- yes!

What matters is to:  keep writing, keep interacting, and keep marketing yourself wherever and whenever.  Whatever you do and no matter how few fans you have, keep the faith and write, write, write because the fans will come.  That was what one writer told me and she was correct.  The more you write, the more you have to market and the more readers you will gain.  And if all else fails, self-publish.  I have a short story book that I will most likely have to take this route as not many publishers want to publish short story books.

Whatever you do, don’t stop!  If writing is your dream, keep doing it.  Live your dream.  Do what makes you happy and have faith in yourself that you can achieve all you want to be.  In fact, take a break right now, sit down in your comfortable recliner and relax and visualize the amazing success you want with your books.  This is good advice for me too for life gets crazy and complicated and we forget to take care of ourselves but do it because you are worth it.  Just a few minutes is all you need to re-energize and re-motivate.

So, a year has gone by but I’m still going, still loving it and still writing.  You should be too!

Take care, friends and be safe.

Paranormal Romance Authors and Halloween

Paranormal Romance Authors unite.  This is our time of year!

No, it’s not sweet Spring or even Sultry Summer which gets us excited, it’s Alluring Autumn and Halloween- the magic, the freakiness, the “anything can happen” crazy stuff we write about in our novels that our readers eat up and relish by volumes.

This time of year, when things go “bump in the night”- that’s our thing and that’s what we love.  That’s what we write about.  It is the spirit of who we truly are.  Open to anything, sharp and aware, creating stories from what we see, feel, hear.

If you follow, NaNoWriMo, that’s what you need to write about next month:  the wonderful, exciting stuff that gets our mind going and makes us think…what if?  So stretch your arms overhead into shoulder circles, crack your knuckles and get yourself ready because this is your time to shine!

For when someone harms you with their words-

Tonight I suffered a set back.  My dad made a comment that ended up being more hurtful than he likely intended.  You see, I’ve lost two wonderful souls in my life recently and one was my mom.  So when my dad said he would probably only live three more years because he couldn’t see living any longer, I broke down into tears after we ended our conversation.  Telling me he was going to pass away when my mom only passed away a little over 2 months ago and I lost my precious companion dog a month ago was pretty insensitive.

I’m sure he didn’t mean it to come out the way he said it but regardless the pain from his stinging comment remains.

It helped that I had three friends to bounce the situation off of.  So when you are in a situation like this where someone tells you something devastating, first thing, don’t blame yourself.  That’s what I was trying to do- trying to find out what else I could’ve done differently where he wouldn’t say such callous words to me.  But there’s nothing I could’ve done differently.  I try to do the best that I can and be as supportive as possible.  Unfortunately, there’s no way to expect the same from others, even from your relatives.  Each person makes their own choices as to how to behave and just because you give doesn’t mean you will receive.  Just give with a loving, open heart and don’t expect anything in return.  One day you will receive back the kindness you sent forth and it will come to you in the way you need at the right time.

Vent out to a close friend or two or three.  When my dad said he was grieving, I thought I am too!  Maybe he forgot because he can’t see past his own grief or maybe he doesn’t see it because I try to be strong and positive when I’m around him.  Either way words can hurt and you may not even see or know the effect of your own words, as my dad will never know the pain he caused me.

Try to see the situation from different angles.  Because I’m worried about my dad’s health, I’ve been trying to help him with finding a single story home to rent but from his words today, stating that he’s comfortable with where he’s at, I can see that what I think is best for him is not what he considers best.  This is a good reminder that sometimes our meddling for someone’s own good, according to my friend Michael, is not always for their own good.  Let the other person make their own decisions- advise but don’t push, no matter how bad a situation gets.

Of course his telling me he would have to consider moving when he can’t walk up the stairs anymore or he falls down the stairs didn’t help either.  The idea of him falling down the stairs is what I wanted to prevent but again, like my advice in the last paragraph states- I shouldn’t impose my ideas of what’s good on someone else because they may not be good for them.  So, lastly, forgive the person whose words cut you like a knife for it is not worth your pain or even your energy to hold in you anything negative that may affect you later on in undesirable ways (health, mood, etc).  Don’t dwell on it any longer, let it go and if there’s a lesson to it, take that with you so that next time you are prepared in case the situation repeats itself.

Take care, my friends and be well.