People’s opinions of you- leave them behind

I had an interesting experience today.  In fact it was so surprising, I did a double and even a triple take at my e-mail when I finally realized the comment was directed at me.  The sender said I was “clueless…”  Hmmm.  Interesting.

Well, yes, I have to agree that most times I am (before coffee) and, apparently,  I cover it up very well because they still pay me (smile).  I never profess to know anything thoroughly because there’s always room for improvement and there’s always more knowledge out there than I can possibly remember in my tiny brain but to hear another professional’s opinion of me was, well….jarring.  If she had conducted more research into the situation she formed a final opinion on she’d realize her supervisor had mixed up meeting dates/towns- an error he apologized for, later.

Granted, some opinions may hold some merit or may be areas you’ve thought about before for your own self-improvement purposes; however, don’t let other people’s opinions mold you or change you unless you think it’s good advice.  One thing I’ve learned as a supervisor is that everyone will have an opinion about you.  That’s fine.  I’ve learned to deal with it to the point I even mentioned this to an employee who spoke badly about me in the hallways when I wasn’t in the office.  It’s fine if you have a negative opinion of me, just keep it to yourself or behind closed doors because there are many others who have a positive opinion of me.

Everyone’s entitled to their opinion- that’s their right- but, essentially, you know who you are.  You know what you stand for.  You know right from wrong.  Don’t let others’ opinion of you affect who you are inside.  Let it wash off you and continue doing what you’re doing because others’ opinions are just that- their ideas and their thoughts.  It’s not necessarily the truth.  It’s based on presumptions, incorrect knowledge and, most of the time, lack of research.

Do good, for good, and it will always come back to you and let the rest fall behind you as you push forward to be the best you can be.

Take care, my friends and be well.

2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Personal excellence
    Jun 09, 2015 @ 19:36:37

    Great post! I’m sure being a supervisor or manager is very difficult. No one likes the person in that position unfortunately, especially when part of their job is to keep everyone else in line. My supervisor wants to be friends with everyone and it’s utter………….hope things are going well for you



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